Joe Guastella

'Twas love I'd wager placed the defect there

within the wrinkle of your smile concealed.

The surgeon's blade our woe away might pare

its poison'd root and grew into your face.

it was removed. Does there remain a trace?

and need now but recall our pledge of troth —

For we are two in faith each with our part

but for all days to come we share one heart.

Some may ask as have I from sleepless bed

Not why, to question why leaves just because,

On earth might one snatch hope from cancer's jaws

The grip of dark that daylight might reveal

Of tears, a raft of hope, with steady keel.

Love's last trial waits, not while we are yet here

Atop the dune hills dreaming hand-in-hand

One set of footprints only press the sand

But whose? It matters not ('tis my belief)

My hope — that waves may wash away some grief

My wife Debra was diagnosed with stage 3B melanoma on her face and in a nearby sentinel lymph node in March 2021. Last February, we discovered that it migrated to the lymph nodes in her neck (although the doctors still maintain that it is not stage 4). She has been a member of the Facebook "Melahomies" site since that time.

During the first few months after Deb's diagnosis, while she was undergoing immunotherapy, we started having regular, honest and often difficult, conversations about the uncertainty of our future together because of this insidious disease. We continue to do so and are able to speak openly about our fears. We use the comfort and strength of our relationship to find a way forward.

This post was written and submitted by Joe Guastella. The article reflects the views of Guastella and not of CURE®. This is also not supposed to be intended as medical advice.

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The narrative reflects a personal journey through the challenges of dealing with stage 3B melanoma, highlighting the emotional and relational impact of the diagnosis. It underscores the importance of open communication and mutual support in navigating the uncertainties of cancer. The author shares the experience of his wife’s diagnosis and treatment, emphasizing the role of their relationship in finding strength and hope. The piece is a poignant reminder of the human aspect of cancer, focusing on love, resilience, and the shared journey of facing a life-threatening illness together.

When my wife was diagnosed with stage 3B melanoma, we decided to openly speak about our fears.

Joe Guastella

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