Javishkar Reddy

After a short but passionate relationship of just four months, an ex-girlfriend and I broke up. I had fallen head over heels for her but ending our relationship had made sense at the time because of the compatibility issues we were having.

I eventually moved to another city, and thought I had left this all behind me, but matters of the heart are indeed complex and I missed her more and more as each day went out. Because she was so active on social media, it seemed like she didn’t care about our break-up and that she moved on fairly swiftly. I began to resent her and quietly wished I’d never met her.

Then I found out at the age of 30, she had been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer.
We eventually reconciled and we are now on extremely good terms. However, this poem is a reminder of how ego and pride can often destroy our thinking, actions and most importantly, our soul. Always choose love. Always.

This poem was originally submitted for the CURE® 2021 Poetry Contest.

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